It's a song title right? Johnny Nash. This muse is not about the hit single though. It's an attempt to try and explain why i am what i am. The questions.....well..... they sometimes come from Miss who has on a couple of occasions openly stated that She is not quite able to understand the sissy cuckold thing and why i consider myself one. Quite reasonable questions and they should be expected - considering the effect it has on Her life and the impact it has on us as a couple. My attempts at answering, aren't always very good and often i fail to provide an adequate explanation. i'm better with the written word than with the spoken word. So in order to try and explain the 'why am i a sissy cuckold' i've scoured the www and found what i consider to be 2 'useful' extracts that i hope explain it better than i can.
Interestingly, it appears that these are written by women. Now of course we can't be 100% sure but certain nuances in the writing style and way of commenting make me think that they genuinely are. FOREWARNING! This is going to be a long blog with no titillation or fun games between Miss and i so apologies in advance.
1. An interesting definition:
Many sissy cuckolds feel they are not sexually adequate enough to fulfil their wife’s needs. Because of that intrinsic feeling, based on their smaller penis size or other insecurities, they are more likely to go along with a wife or partner that is interested in sex with another man, and also more likely to become extremely submissive to the point of emasculation as sissy cuckolds are.
A sissy cuckold is expected to do many of the same things a less submissive cuckold is, like watching his wife fucking the other man, or preparing a lovemaking bath for her and whoever will be pleasuring her that night. One of the biggest differences is that a sissy cuckold may not be ever allowed to have sexual relations with his wife. His only sexual arousal may be limited only to masturbation, alone or while watching his wife get screwed, or orally gratifying the man that his wife is fucking. Also, going beyond emasculation is a cuckold’s forced or coerced, or sometimes voluntary feminization, rendering him a virtual eunuch.
He derives so much pleasure from his wife’s needs it is at the complete exclusion of his own.
A sissy cuckold’s humiliation is also a component in this arena of the cuckolding fetish. His small penis is constantly a point of submission and why he does not deserve to be the one to enjoy his wife’s dripping wet pussy. The more he submits and loses his masculine identity, the more he is mocked and ridiculed. This humiliating role-play is the rocket of sexual arousal and gratification for all involved; including the sissy cuckold.
2. This next extract, i'm convinced written by a Woman, is exhaustive and not all aspects apply to me but most do! It was titled 'How To Convert Your Husband Into A Sissy Cuckold' but i think it should have been titled 'How To Get The Most For You From Your Sissy Cuckold'.
The submissive male needs direction: Some surveys have suggested that as many as two-thirds of men have fantasized about being sexually dominated by a woman. Think about that, 66% of wife’s could take control of their marriage and yet only 23% do! Erotic power, the combination of sex and authority, directly taps into this natural submissive sexual response. Once you learn to tap into that response in the bedroom, you can tap into it any time of the day. He will become putty in your hands. You must work on both his brain and penis. The “teasing” and the “not knowing” what is next plays into how their brains are wired. There focus needs to be directed to you, and ONLY you. Be verbal, reinforce his behaviour.
Think of it like this, the dog needs to be walked, the cat needs to be feed, and your husband needs time from you EACH day. You MUST tell him what you want him to do, each day. He must be taught that the best gratification comes from you and the more he pleases and obeys you, the better or more frequent that gratification will be. But to start it has to be done with subtlety.
2. Confidence: Yes you CAN learn how to handle your husband. Don’t worry if you lack confidence in the beginning. You can take small steps to find your way. Your confidence will grow with positive results. Do not confuse your initial lack of confidence with a lack of commitment. Be committed and find your way to fulfilling that commitment. Age is not a factor. Weight is not a factor. Beauty is not a factor. These things are simply not relevant. Sexual attraction is 90% mental, only 10% physical. You will be surprised how unimportant conventional standards of beauty are. You don’t need to be a beauty queen to be a sex goddess. It’s all about how you act, not how you look. It’s the attitude. Erotic power is the key to igniting passion in your marriage. Erotic power is a strength and force that you can exert to arouse sexual desire in your husband. Erotic power is your capacity to exercise control over your husband through his sexual desire for you.
Erotic power is your will and determination unleashed against boredom and familiarity in marriage. Erotic power is the unrestrained exploitation of his sexual desires and fantasies toward your personal goals. Erotic power is the uninhibited expression of your femininity. Erotic power will become the focal point of your renewed marital relationship. This is not to say that it is a substitute for love. On the contrary, it will become for both of you a new and powerful expression of your love for one another. Erotic power will shape and transform your marriage. Erotic power is an expression of love. You express your love for your husband through your erotic power. And you rediscover your love for him as he courts you and submits to your loving authority. You can indulge and broaden your love of him by setting a higher standard and admiring his efforts to meet it.
3. How do you get your husband to do what you say: You must train yourself to be sexually independent if you want to control your husband. Much like a well-trained pet that is happy because he has rules to follow and boundaries to keep him under control, a submissive man will only be truly happy when he is being obedient. Obedience pleases his wife, and when she is pleased, he is satisfied and calm. Submissive men are proud of the service and devotion they can bring to their Dominant females, and this pride leads to a sense of overall happiness and bliss. Correctly obeying orders and receiving praise for a job well done are forms of love and respect for him, and are emotions he dearly craves.
Men need to be obedient in FLR relationships because it is what makes them happy, and it is the reason that they gave up control in the first place. It reinforces their submissive role, and allows them to enjoy the emotions of freedom and carelessness that they experience while being dominated. Take one small step at a time so that the male will be totally unaware he is being reprogrammed to behave in the manner that you desire. One small goal after another so that at the end of the journey he will not even realize he has been on a trip. It might help clarify what needs to be done to develop a general theory of female domination. A woman has to use psychology to gain and maintain her control.
This brings us to the basic principle of female domination: If the man has to accept being dominated, there has to be something in it for him, his orgasm. Forget everything else you read on line a stick with positive reinforcement. Be sure to praise him when he does something submissive and self-sacrificing for your benefit. This will condition him to find fulfilment in his role as a subordinate person. Sexual energy can then be used to remould his personality. A man's sexual energy, or libido, can be stimulated through sexual teasing. You can give him a peek up your skirt. You can have him help you change clothes. Or you can go about the house from time to time dressed in fancy underwear or a skimpy nightie. This brings us to the subject of lingerie.
The first thing to remember about lingerie is that it has a cosmetic value. Not very many of us look like Cindy Crawford or Naomi Campbell, and our intimate apparel can take attention away from whatever figure problems we might happen to have. Men regard our wearing fancy lingerie as something done for their benefit; they are too self-centred to see it any other way. They are totally unaware that we are using it to hide things that we don't want them to notice. A sexual fetish is an object that a man finds to be sexually stimulating in itself. Because the man is stimulated by the object, the object has power over him. So the woman who controls the fetish has all the power over her man. Once you have established promises, you must be prepared to reinforce them. When, for example, your husband does the dishes, you should give him some attention. I recommend a whispered “thank you” or “good job” in his ear as you rub your hand roughly across his crotch. Such an arousing gesture, consistently given, reinforces the association between the promise kept and sex and therefore reinforces the keeping of promises.
4. Domestic Housework: You’re going to kill yourself when you realize that your submissive husband will take on more of the domestic housework. For 19 years I could have had him cooking and cleaning for me while I relaxed! This is a Win/Win for sure, the trick is you must play with his mind, tap into his submissive side when you want him to be domestic. If you don’t take the time to tease and direct he will just feel that you are taking advantage of him and not respond. Start by getting him naked or in a domestic “outfit” and then give him simple directions ”Honey it would make me very happy if you can get a bath ready for me and then do the dishes”, “Babe could you please pour me a glass of wine and vacuum the family room”. USE YOUR Praise words, “you did a great job”, “I’m so happy”, “Thank you for getting my car washed”. The more praise he gets, the more he will do. DON”T take him for granted. Tell him when he is done with the filth in the kitchen you have some filth between your legs that will need cleaning and watch how fast he gets to work. This is the first “upside” you will discover. It is well known that men love to do domestic chores for a dominant Female. Your submissive husband will enjoy the attention and direction that you will be giving him. You will make it clear on how you expect him to serve you by doing domestic chores around the house. You may discover that what helps your husband with his domestic chores is how you dress him for his tasks. Check his lie detector and find out what is going on in his head. It may be naked, with an apron or dressed up as a sissy maid when he is doing the house cleaning. If your husband likes to dress up this is a good place to do it. Get him an apron, maids outfit or a full girls outfit (many options on line), then all you have to do is lay it out for him and when he is dressed treat him like your personal maid.
5. Body Hair: Understand that the symbolism involved by having your submissive man remove a nice mound of pubic hair and keeping his little dick and balls cleanly shaved. It’s a constant reminder of your dominance over him. I removed most of my husband’s body hair, his back, butt, chest, armpits and most important his pubic hair. I only left some hair on his legs and arms, after all in the summer we do go out in shorts. The submissive male thinks that the “alpha” male should look like a “man” and they should look more like “boys”. Your husband sees the difference between his feminized body and the bodies of the masculine men you will tell him that you like. He gains a better appreciation of the things that turn you on. He becomes curious and he even finds the contrast of a large, stud cock attractive when compared to his smooth, feminine body. Again this naturally helps to encourage his submission to you and of course being clean shaven makes his chastity device much more comfortable.
6. Clothed Female and Naked Male: This is going to sound a bit odd, but, you want him naked as often as possible, while you remain clothed. Forced nudity is a means of subjugation, and one person’s subjugation is another’s empowerment. Forced nudity produces feelings of humiliation and humiliation is as a tool that serves to emphasize a submissive husband’s sense of being controlled. Forced nudity causes your husband to reveal his private parts to be judged by all and that's a scary thing for all men. Nudity like submission shares an important commonality, exposure. When he is naked and you are not, he is in an exposed, embarrassing position seeking your direction. His entire life he has been told to put cloths on, now his wife is making him take them off. Even if he likes being naked it will become humiliating for him. Use your words and toy with him. If he is soft, say things that get him hard. This will allow him to shift control to you. Clothed women easily dominate and humiliate naked males, one of the many ways the stronger sex has of controlling weaker males. The more often the male is nude, obediently passive, meekly obeying his wife, the more he is reminded of his place. A naked male submissive is a good way to arrange a marriage/relationship, a clear sign that "SHE wears the pants in the house." You will mostly likely find in your area a CFNM (Clothed Female Naked Male) Party, just google it. At this party the males are naked and the Females are clothed for the entire party. The males are there to serve and entertain the Females. The Females are in charge of the party. They can have the males do whatever makes them happy. The males are not allowed to touch or initiate interaction with the Females without the wife’s permission.
7. Masturbation: Many of the sites I saw on line are big into Chasity and NOT allowing your man to masturbate, I 100% disagree. All men masturbate, all men masturbate, and all men masturbate. Now you have a choice, you can pretend that it is not going on, or you can use it to take control of him. I am told that boys under 20 could masturbate up to 4 times each day, 20-30 up to 3 times each day, even men over 50 can average once a day! So what’s important is that you become the centre of his masturbation. Now this has most likely been his dirty little secret since he was 12 so you need to “change” the habits. So first get him naked then talk to him. Let him know that you want to take control of all his orgasms and get an agreement that he will let you be in charge of his penis. Then force him to masturbate, a lot, more often than he has been doing. 2-4 times a day the first few weeks. You want to drain his balls so much that he gets to the point where he just can’t do it anymore.
Then for the next few months 1-3 times a day, then down to 5-7 times per week. This is important, it’s OK for you to masturbate him each day if that is what is required to have him focus on you. Make sure to tell him on occasion NOT to masturbate, you need to mix it up on time and location. You want his mind racing with when your next instruction will come. What you read on line is WRONG, he will be much more willing to please you knowing that his reward is getting to masturbate. Yes taking this away will make him work hard to get the right back, but, take it away too long and he will build resentment and just do it anyway!
8. Oral Sex: Oral sex, by which I mean cunnilingus, is an important element of a wife-led marriage for a couple reasons. First, you want him to focus on your sexual satisfaction, even to the point of giving you orgasms more frequently than you allow him. Oral sex obviously satisfies that, or at least it will once he gets good at it. But as importantly, oral sex has connotations of social hierarchy. Generally speaking, when one person is giving oral sex to another, the one receiving it is perceived to be in a position of power over the one giving it. By demanding and receiving oral sex from your husband you are asserting your dominance over him. In giving oral sex, he is submitting himself to you. Needless to say, you should never give your husband oral sex, only your lovers if you decided to have them. However, while many men today are comfortable performing oral sex on their wives most are not and some are absolutely horrified at the thought.
If your husband is inexperienced with giving oral sex it is likely that he will initially resist the idea both because of the social connotations and because he will imagine it to be dirty. But by removing his objection to the scent and taste you can focus on overcoming his objection to the power dynamic. This can be an important opportunity for you to gain confidence in your ability to direct sex to your own satisfaction as well as to advance his trust in you to initiate beneficial changes in your marriage. The very things that may initially repel him will eventually become a powerful addiction for him. In time he will crave your scent and taste and will seek your permission to satisfy you orally. The greater his initial inhibitions about giving oral sex, the greater will be the emotional impact when he learns to enjoy it. If you teach your husband to give you oral sex then you can enjoy quickies at any time. You can do this not just in bed before you go to sleep, but also in the morning before you dress for work or in the evening when you come home to him. Use your imagination.
9. The Scent of You: The sense of smell will work to control your submissive husband. I hope you have been enjoying oral sex from your husband he has become trained to the scent of your vagina. This smell has become a “trigger” for him. Your scent becomes his world.
10. Humiliation: Submissive husbands crave humiliation, submissive husbands crave humiliation, and submissive husbands crave humiliation. Humiliation can be tricky so it should be used carefully. Humiliation is intended to humble, not to cause emotional harm. It’s important to find the right balance and one way to achieve that is by mixing humiliation with humour. Never humiliate in anger. There are basically two types of humiliation: private and public. Private humiliation is simply any act that is kept between you and your husband.
Public humiliation is anything revealed outside your marriage. In most cases, the threat of public humiliation is more effective than the actual deed. But a little public humiliation can lend credibility to threats of bigger humiliation. His masturbation is the starting point, each time you require him to masturbate you are feeding his need for humiliation. Be creative on how you masturbate him. An example of simple public humiliation, you insist on paying the check at restaurants, this is a small humiliation as social custom is that the husband does this. This small humiliation can serve as the basis for threatening a larger humiliation: the public revelation of your domination of the marriage. Each time you pay the check he will be reminded of this. You can also set up potential public humiliations with private ones. For example, by requiring your husband to wear panties as his underwear he will feel a gentle humiliation throughout the day. But if he misbehaves in public you can remind him of it in a loud voice. Submissive husband humiliation ideas; Insist that he sit down at all times when using the toilet, if you find out that he peed standing, send him outside naked to pee for a week (the bathroom just got much cleaner).
Make him kneel in front of you regularly, to beg for something with his nose in your vagina. Make him carry your handbag occasionally when in public. Send hubby out shopping to buy something that will embarrass him, for you or for him. Tell your husband you're horny because you have been thinking of some other man. Make him wear female deodorant. Send him to the get a pedicure and make sure he gets his nails done in a colour of your choice, he needs to tell the girl it’s at your request. When he is in chastity, make a point of walking around the house naked, or in sexy lingerie.
11. Hygiene: Make it part of your routine to have your husband attend to YOUR hygiene. The submissive male craves serving his bride. When he bathes you, shaves your legs, shaves your sex (if you want it shaved), or gives you a massage or a shower it plays into how he is wired. Don’t make this about sex (unless of course you want sex). During this time it’s about him taking care of you. I am not opposed to having him take care of your tampon changing (yes changing) or even wiping and cleaning you after you use the restroom, just not my thing.
12. Chasity device: You locking it up and taking control of his cock is very powerful. The submissive male needs to be punished and this is a good tool for masturbating without approval. Managing your husband’s sexual activity requires a certain level of trust. Unfortunately, not all men are trustworthy. The risk of infidelity is actually not as great as it might seem; if you have established yourself as an object of adoration and addicted him to your erotic power, then he is far less likely to take an interest in another women (unless you drop the ball and a dominant bitch gets her hands on him and plays to his submission). Other women will seem boring next to you. A male chastity device is simply a locking cage that encloses his penis and makes masturbation impractical. You hold the key so you decide when he can come out to play. Not only does it enforce your management of his sexuality and prevent masturbation, it represents a constant physical reminder of his submission to your authority. In a sense, it is a wedding ring around his penis.
Managing your husband’s orgasms gives you enormous power over him. Delaying and denying his orgasms will make him putty in your hands, for a short while. He will not be able to refuse you anything. But there is a limit to how far you can go. Everything depends on his trust in you. Betray that trust and you will find yourself in a very difficult situation. Maintain and reward that trust and he will be more loyal and obedient than you can imagine. Above all, you absolutely do not want him to lose hope, a mistake made by using Chasity too long, too often. If he loses hope he might be tempted to seek relief outside the marriage, either by himself or worse. At a minimum, you will invite a rebellion’s. The more you deny his orgasms, the closer attention you must pay to his happiness and enthusiasm. Remember, once you own his heart you are responsible for it. DO NOT OVER DO IT, ½ a day to 2 days maximum to start, but DO IT when it needs to be done, or just to keep him off balance.
13. Panties: You need to have a “naked” talk with him about cross-dressing, pay attention to the lie detector. Regardless of what turns you on, you need to understand what is turning him on, so ask about it all, and find out just how far he would go. Cross dressers are often heterosexual men that get aroused by wearing female clothing. There are lots of fantasies that people have and this just happens to be one of them. Your husband is not a pervert or baby-molester but may be a cross-dresser with a certain fantasy. Take a look at a few “sissy cross-dressing sites and ask him how he feels about what you found (a maid’s outfit, bra, nightgowns, panties etc.). Almost all submissive men love panties. Now I had no interest in dressing my husband up as a girl and taking him out for a walk, but he did react to panties and other female items.
So I did my research and found that panties are a control item for women. When you make your man wear girl panties, he is focusing his attention on you even when you are not with him. I understand why some wife’s put their husbands in panties full time, I have no problem with that. Regardless of how YOU feel, if cross-dressing is a trigger for him then you need to dress him up. You do not need to do it full time unless it’s what you both want. I did surprise him one day and put him in a maid uniform for obvious reasons, he was going to help the house keeper. Our housekeeper of 15 years saw his new panties in the laundry, saw how I was controlling him, and loved the help she was getting. She taught him how to clean to her standards (and did not travel in our social circle), WIN/WIN/WIN. She had many questions on how she could work with her husband. I was shocked and surprised just how helpful our house keeper was with my husband’s training and humiliation.
14. Forced feminization: Forced feminization is the act of stripping his masculinity away from him as part of your training and forcing him into the role of a girl. His beautiful male heart is captured, overwhelmed and engulfed by femininity. There’s more to this than just the forced cross-dressing part. Beyond wearing very feminine clothes, Forced feminization often involves him taking on other feminine characteristics and also playing the role of stereotypical women or girls. What’s so exciting about it? Erotic humiliation is a very intimate act if anything. And feminizing him can be a very powerful way to humiliate a man. He becomes humble and very submissive when feminized. He lets go of the need to be strong and fearless and isn’t afraid to be weak in your arms. What a beautiful gesture of love that is. A man who likes to cross-dress but feels ashamed of it, might feel better about himself if he’s forced to cross-dress. I should point out now that when I mean ‘forced’ I’m talking about following your directions in regards to dress and action.
An activity that submissive men sometimes seek is feminization. And if they have "natural" feminine traits, the probability of him accepting feminization may be very high indeed. More men than one might suspect will enjoy, and even embrace, the concept of being forced to wear female clothing, lingerie and perhaps even costumes. Men will usually act like being feminized is a threat to their masculinity. Men fear that their woman might think less of him as a man. Remember: Forcing him to be feminized helps eliminate his fear and embarrassment of doing it. His male ego needs to be "taken off the hook". His internal rationale is, he'll do it to please you. All the while, he will be sexually aroused at the thought of it. Check the lie detector.
15. Punishment: Simply put, punishment is the association of a negative consequence with an undesired behaviour. For example, disobedience is an undesired behaviour that ought to be punished to discourage it. If you want to be a good parent you need to punish your kids, if you want to be a good wife you need to punish your submissive husband. Discipline is the practice of applying bondage, spanking, cbt or other behavioural enhancements as a method of increasing the feelings of submission on the part of the husband and the sensation of dominance on the part of the wife. One of the simplest forms of physical discipline is denying the man one of the basics of human pride: clothing. Simply by limiting or specifying the clothing a man wears when attending his wife major behavioural changes can occur.
I prefer the husband be kept naked, but that can be overwhelming for most wives. An alternative is to choose clothing which may cover the husband, but leave his aroused state exposed and apparent. Now for me what I saw on line in punishment was way over the top, I’m not looking to “brand” him, just get his attention. So I went “old school”. I started with an over my knee spanking with his penis locked between my legs. What I found is that the spanking excited him, he was very hard and leaking. I realized that when I was punishing him he had given me complete control during the punishment. A submissive male NEEDS punishment, they want the negative attention directed on making them better husbands, who knew! Beating my husband with whips and chains is not my thing so I found other ways to punish him. Once I handcuffed him to the bed and put on Cuckolding DVD on TV and left the room. He watched the images of wife’s and their lovers for an hour or so. I know how much this turns him on so this punishment has 2 upsides, the first is that he cannot masturbate to the images on the screen, and the second is he is getting used to the idea of me with other men. So punishment can be carried out without a beating. Now I do use the Chasity device from time to time but rarely over 48 hours. Most of the time it’s a 1 day fit and I don’t even give him a reason other than “I want you focused on me today”.
16. Corporal Punishment, Spanking: Corporal punishment, or spanking, is perhaps the most extraordinary form of punishment. It can be very cathartic for both parties. Men are particularly fond of enduring physical pain in their devotion to love. For men, enduring physical pain can be a powerful symbol of manhood, even more when that pain is at the request of their love. They do not involve torture, brutality, cruelty, or anything that could cause lasting harm. Some of the physical punishments described are meant to be painful. There is no question that welts will be raised and bottoms bruised, but chastisement should never leave permanent marks. For you the act of spanking can be a way to release and direct your anger. The next time you find your anger has overwhelmed your love for your husband, try pulling down his pants and paddling him on the buttocks, hard, until you can truly forgive his wrong and make love to him. Vent your anger against his buttocks until you forget his transgression and feel pity for him. As for your concern that your husband will not accept punishment from you, I can assure you that most men will actually welcome the idea. When you discipline your husband you tap into that submissive fantasy to serve his wife and improve your marriage. Another reason he will acquiesce to your discipline is the control you have taken over his ejaculation. When he has become accustomed to awaiting your permission to ejaculate, he will obey you without rebellion.
This is important to remember AFTER the punishment is done, reward him in a very humiliating fashion by making him masturbate. 100% of the time my husband must consume all his sperm as part of the punishment. The foundation for all forms of punishment is the spanking. The experience of being spanked hard by you makes him more cooperative with the less physical punishments. By this I do not mean a simple slap on the buttocks. That can be used, if you like as playful foreplay. What I mean is a serious, over-the-knee, bare-bottomed, hard spanking with something other than your hand. You may begin with your hand if you’re like, but in order for it to be truly disciplinary you must use something such as a paddle, the backside of a hairbrush or a belt. Lecture him quietly on why he is being spanked. Tell him if he weren’t so bad and naughty you wouldn’t have to spank his bottom so hard, that sort of talk. A good, sound spanking releases built up tensions and frustrations in a marriage and can actually be enjoyable for the wife. So, instead of feeling helpless and despairing, a wife can threaten a punishment she is more than willing to carry out and feel power and hope for her marriage instead. Additionally, her punishment of him will be loving as well as disciplinary. No matter what instrument is being used, the wife must always keep in mind that the part most commonly on the receiving end, the buttocks, lay in close proximity to such vital areas as the kidneys and tailbone. For this reason you should never use a heavy or blunt instrument. I did not feel comfortable spanking my husband in the early days of this process. If you feel that this is a bit out of your comfort area, then do what I did and start by visiting a professional. A professional will do the job for you without mercy and teach you at the same time. WIN/WIN/WIN. Once a month for the first 6-9 months I would go with him to a professional dominatrix and have a session with him. He would be the only one naked and she and I would discuss his faults and she would administer the punishment. I got the hang of it after a few visits. We will still see a professional from time to time just to expose him to new women and the humiliation that goes with it or visit B&D clubs and spank him in public.
17. Eating Sperm: Much has been written on this topic, this is my take on it. Straight men have been programed that “the bitch sucks cock and swallows”. Guys who swallow sperm are “gay”. Your husband is NOT gay, he is not even BI, he is a sexual submissive. He will eat sperm or suck a cock (gay things in his head) to please the love of his life. So it is very important that he becomes the “bitch”. Husbands are naturally more attentive to their wives when they are aroused and excited. There is much you can do to maintain your husband in a state of arousal and excitement but such excitement is in anticipation of sexual satisfaction. Once that satisfaction is achieved, his attention to you will tend to fall off for a while. This is just natural. Promises are useful because they bind your husband at one time to perform at another time. In particular, your husband may make a promise when he is aroused to perform when he is not. Right after a man orgasms his brain recovers back to its “baseline” of what tastes good, feels good, and smells good and how he was programed as a little boy. This is an important process to “re program” his “baseline” so that you become the centre of his world.
This is why almost every site I found made this the number 1 item on training your submissive husband. The goal is that after his orgasms his love and affection for you is more important than how he feels about eating sperm. You need to break out your best mom voice and tell him what you expect him to do, don’t wimp out he needs it. The best place to start is after his orgasms in you, take a few minutes and cuddle with him. Then whisper something in his ear that is sure to turn him on. When he begins to get erect, take your hands and guide his head to your sex and talk him through it, or better yet sit on his face and drain it into him. After a few times of doing this, just take his head the same way and guide him to his task. This is a line in the sand for all women, he must do it. Use his masturbation to reinforce his place, when he cleans you well and follows your directions, the next time you masturbate him praise him for his last cleaning, let him know how happy it made you, then have him masturbate and continue with your praise.
Try after him cums dipping your finger in it and bring it to his lips, work towards him Cumming in your hand and him doing it on his own. Try the “yoga” masturbation position where is cock is pointed at his face, then he hits his mouth while he is still in the “zone”. Test him by “milking” him while in Chasity and making him eat it from your hand (milking is using a prostrate toy on him which will cause his penis to release sperm even if he is not hard).
If you've read all of that, phew, well done! It's really for Miss but if it is of use to anyone else then you are most welcome! x
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